I recently found myself engaged in one of the socialization rituals that marks this inflection point in human history: watching others play video games. Specifically, I chatted with my son and niece while they played Fortnite, which will surely carry the enduring cultural cache for their generation that sitcoms like Happy Days and The Brady Bunch played for mine. While gunning down hapless opponents from around the world, the two digital warriors deigned to educate me on the fine line between effort and obsession. Certain players, they claimed, were nothing more than tryhards or sweats. These strivers, often identifiable by certain skins, took all the fun out of the game. Their wins lacked legitimacy by dint of the fact that they tried too hard.
How can accusing someone of effort be an insult?
The term tryhard has a long history as a derogatory appellation. The insult was originally hurled at those who conspicuously expend excessive effort into achieving a certain image, to the point where their personas are clearly contrived. In this sense, the term serves as a synonym for wannabe: “a person usually of little talent who tries hard to succeed, especially through imitation, usually to gain fame or popularity.”
However, video game culture adopted tryhard to describe players who clearly try hard, sometimes in a ridiculous way where they lose despite their colossal effort but also when they win for the same reason. Tryhards, it seems, don’t play games for fun but rather for hyper-competitive reasons related to insecurity. At least, that’s what casuals—people who claim they don’t play or care as much–say.
In the same vein, sweats are also people that seem to try too hard. Spending too much time on a game can be sweaty. Copying other competitors in order to win can be sweaty. Even doing all your homework and paying attention in class can be sweaty in the eyes of academic casuals. Doing or being extra is equally suspect among those who don’t try as hard.
Of course, some of us recognize that those who accuse others of being tryhards may be compensating for their own lack of effort or results. Nobody “casually” prevails over strong competitions. Since the first Olympic games in ancient Greece, the history of sports has been written by tryhards. In every field, industry, and human endeavor, the difference between average and elite can often be measured in literal or figurative sweat.
Thus, for anyone who wants to achieve greatness, your course of action is clear: be a tryhard, not in the sense that you pretend to be what you are not, but rather that you work relentlessly to become that to which you aspire. Ignore the self-professed casuals and keep your nose to that metaphorical grindstone. When you look up, you may finally recognize the envy in the eyes of those who mock your effort. My son–who plays Fortnite for far too many hours a day to ever qualify as a casual–showed a flash of that ambition as well–just hours after mocking the “sweat squad” in the game, he asked to purchase their identifying skin so he could join them. And why shouldn’t he? If you want to truly excel, you have to be a tryhard.
Obviously trying hard is acceptable in the real world, it’s how all of modern civilization came to be the way it did. It’s how Humans conquered the animal kingdom and became the dominant species, nobody is saying it isn’t. People hate tryhards and sweaty players online because some of us just want to relax with a quick game after work. We don’t have 50 hours a week to spend practicing or watching videos of how to abuse mechanics. It became an insult because it started ruining a lot of people’s favorite hobbies that they do just to relax. Sometimes we just want to play to enjoy, not play to win.
Why should my (theoretical) son place second in a casual youth bike race just because some parent could afford to buy their kid the same bike that Armstrong uses? How do you explain that to a child? That they lost because somebody had more money than them, when it was just supposed to be a fun day out. At the Olympics, fine whatever, or regional/statewide/nation wide/international competitions, obviously that’s acceptable. What people hate is when these same people ruin something people do just for fun.
If it was “just supposed to be a fun day out” you wouldn’t have gotten all bent out of shape when your (theoretical) son only got 2nd place (gasp!). Sounds like a “tryhard” who also lost. See “sore loser” and “sour grapes”.
“How do you explain that to a child?” Oh, poor little privileged Johnny!
How do you explain the idea that you won’t always be the best at everything you try?
How do you explain the idea that some people will have advantages that you don’t have?
Sounds like some valuable life lessons. Use it as a teaching moment.
True!
“Tryhard” usually refers to people who try too hard to win and will even cheat in casual games between friends, in an atmosphere that’s meant to be relaxing and fun. If you feel the need to prove yourself so badly that you’re willing to risk annoying or alienating your friends over a game, you’re probably the insecure one.